It is very difficult for most people to say "no", and there are several reasons why. One of the top reasons is that we live in a time where we are used to having it our way. Gluten free? You got it! No bun? For sure! Next day delivery? On the way!
Our expectations have become so distorted that it’s gotten to the point where if someone disagrees with us or our proposition, we are in complete shock. We have tantrums like we did when we were two and can’t accept the fact that sometimes, life doesn’t work like that.
For this reason, it may seem easier for you to just say “yes” and agree to most of things that you are confronted with, but you should never feel obligated to do anything that makes you uncomfortable or unhappy.
Here are 5 ways for you to effectively decline any unwanted solicitations in the workplace.
1.) I am unable to participate in that activity at the moment, but thank you for thinking of me.
2.) This isn't really something that I'm up for right now, but you should definitely talk to so-and-so.
3.) Let them know you aren’t comfortable with the situation. For example, if someone asks to borrow your scarf and you aren’t comfortable lending it to them—you can say something like, “I’m not comfortable with lending people things like that, sorry.”
4.) Sometimes a direct "No" is good enough. It’s okay to be selfish and put your needs before others once in a while, with no apology.
5.) In the case of your manager, point out how heavy your workload currently is and let them know that you don’t want the quality of your existing projects to suffer. Whether it works out in your favor or not, I guarantee that you will feel better for at least giving it a try.
A number of people, who are considered successful today, attribute much of their success to saying "no". Think about it-if you're that person who says "yes" all the time, eventually you will get taken advantage of and barely have time to do those things that matter most to you.
Henry Cloud, who wrote an entire book on how to say "no" once said, “Our opinions and thoughts mean very little if there is nothing we disagree with.” Saying "no" is a part of life, and an extremely important part at that! Have boundaries and stick to them. Once you master this powerful ability, your quality of life and the work that you produce will reward you for it.
What other ways have you found to avoid being in any unwanted situations at work?
Chances are that if you are a millennial—or even if you’re not—you’ve heard of or seen DJ Khaled at some point in your life. It might have been by accident while watching television and seeing him pop up in a Weight Watcher’s ad. It could have been on purpose if you are one of his millions of social media followers. The point is that this producer/entertainer is not an easy person to ignore or miss--especially within the context of these last few years and the growth of social media.
Even though I knew and enjoyed a number of his songs over the last decade or so, I never considered myself a fan. I knew nothing about him other than what he was screaming about in his music—and honestly, I was cool with that. That all changed with my download of the Snapchat application. Once I hit the follow button on his page, I was hooked. DJ Khaled drew me into his universe in a way that I did not see coming—and as someone who has a genuine interest (and degree) in marketing, I was quite impressed.
With the direction that the world seems to be going, using some form of digital marketing is crucial for the success of a business or brand. DJ Khaled—whether it was obvious to him or not—used a number of digital marketing strategies to tremendously grow his brand and bring him to the level of success that he has reached today.
Let’s take a look at 3 of the approaches that worked for him.
The first—and by far the most profitable—technique that has helped DJ Khaled is social media marketing, primarily through the Snapchat app. According to Neil Patel, Social media marketing is the process of creating content that you have tailored to the context of each individual social media platform in order to drive user engagement and sharing--and Khaled has done just that.
He took Snapchat’s unique feature of sharing short videos, maximized on it and made it his own. When this app was doing it’s best a little over a year or two ago, I don’t know anyone who snapped more than him—to the point where it was like, “Okay my guy, relax.” But he didn’t relax, and it’s a good thing that he didn’t because it worked for him. He used Snapchat to not only share videos of his personal life, but to also promote any upcoming albums, concerts, books, appearances, fan meet-ups, and anything else he might have had going on.
Though I will admit that I saw way more of his life than I needed to—shirtless dancing, his wife in labor, him getting a ticket for speeding on a jet ski—it was also pretty awesome to see inside of his home life and view his personality outside of the music. These little extra things, in addition to his positive and contagious energy, kept me coming back to his stories day after day. They made him relevant to me and a real person who I could relate to in many ways. No, some of us may not have jet skis just yet, but I’m sure we do have loved ones and can appreciate someone who works hard to achieve their goals.
I know that we are normally told that we shouldn’t mix business with pleasure, but maybe this is something that we should reconsider? It seemed and still seems to be the winning formula for DJ Khaled.
Repetition. Repetition. See what I did there? Repetition is one of the easiest methods of persuasion and DJ Khaled uses it to exhaustion. Whether you are listening to a song where he is repeating his infamous lyrics or sayings--Another One! We The Best! Major Key! I like that! Don’t ever play yourself! More Wins!--or seeing his repeated posts of some upcoming event or product he is promoting, something is going to stick. Repetition ensures that if someone misses something the first time, they can get it the second or third time around. Sure, it can get quite annoying and overwhelming at times, but when used correctly, it can be an extremely useful weapon to have in your marketing arsenal.
Repetition is one of those things that just works.
I LIKE THAT
The last digital marketing approach that I’ll be sharing today is influencer marketing. Influencer marketing is a form of marketing in which the focus is placed on influential people rather than the target market as a whole.
Collaborating with the right people has taken Khaled’s career to levels that it may not have reached otherwise. He has been in commercials, movies, and as I mentioned before, is now a spokesperson for Weight Watchers. By having his products advertised on other influential celebrity social media channels, people who may not have ever heard of him, are now buying his products and essentially supporting his brand.
I have seen him collaborate with such people as Oprah, Ellen DeGeneres, P. Diddy, Naomi Campbell and many more. Each of these celebrities target extremely different audiences, so by working with them, DJ Khaled was able to extend his reach to more people than he ever could have on his own. Through having them promote his products, people who trusted these celebrities decided that he could be trusted too. This is a form of “Social media listening” and is directly connected to word of mouth marketing—which is still one of the most powerful tools out there for business success.
With the growth of social media, influencer marketing is one of the best ways to make your name and your brand known. All it really takes is a retweet or a testimonial from a “reputable source” for your business to reach new levels.
MORE SUCCESS. MORE WINS!
It seems like we can all learn a thing or two from DJ Khaled’s genius digital marketing strategies. Social media, working with influencers, and repetition are all key ways to grow your business and make yourself and your products known. Have you used any of these strategies?
Kacy-Ann Valembrun is a freelance writer, blogger, and social media manager for hire. She is a newlywed, woman of faith with expert knowledge, personal experience, and particular interest in digital marketing, personal development, and women empowerment. If you are interested in having her produce engaging content for your business, you can learn more here. When Kacy's not writing, you can find her exploring her new neighborhood in the midwest, reading while sipping on a cup of oolong tea, or enjoying some fresh air at a nearby park.